When Adam was six weeks old I took a mindful mothering class at my yoga studio. It was the best thing I could ever have done. It got me out of the house, helped me meet one of my best mommy friends in DC and helped me be a better mom. The focus was to train yourself to enjoy the moments of your infants life as they’re happening instead of worrying about everything else, something that is so difficult for new moms. It taught me ways to stop and just focus on a task instead of wishing the task was done the whole time I was doing it. For example, when you have to wash the dishes you don’t wash them to finish washing them. You just wash them. You focus on the task at hand not the end result. With Adam, it helped me remember to just focus on nursing or walking around with him nuzzled up against me or rocking him, instead of the end result, which for the first six months was to get him to sleep and stay asleep.
What amazes me about Randy is that even without this class he is a natural at mindful fathering. He never focuses on getting the task completed with Adam, he just enjoys being in the moment. He is never rushed and never loses his patience. He enjoys the time he has with Adam, whether it’s playing with him in the bath, reading him a long bedtime story or doing what he does best, just playing with him on his level. So many times lately I have to remind them that it’s time for dinner, bath or bed because they’re so involved in their playing. I look at them together all the time and think how lucky I am to have Randy to parent Adam with me. He reminds me every day to focus on the positive and see all the wonder and joy that comes with being Adam’s parent. He helps me love Adam just as he is and take in every moment of him. I know that Adam will be a better person for having Randy as his dad and that makes me so happy.
Happy Father’s Day to an amazing dad! Adam is one lucky boy.
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